Jeremy Kitson says, “Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”

Oh my, that certainly has brought a huge smile to my face! You see, I am of the opinion that not only do most of us do not achieve all that we can, but we do this because of the choices that we make (or don’t make, for that matter).

Since working with my mentor and friend Vanessa and meeting Donna McCallum, the Fairy Godmother (, I have become a huge deal more aware of the choices that I make. In fact, often as I make the choice I realize that it’s the wrong one and then I have to run around un-doing what I have just done. Note to self – stop, think and then make the choice!

It is imperative though, that once the choice has been made it is followed by an action. Without the action there may very well be a result, but it’s probably not going to be the result you were hoping for.

So often we work really hard at what we are doing and we seem to be going backwards or round in circles, so we work harder still. Sweat pouring down our faces, we put our shoulders to the grindstone and we push ourselves even harder until we fall down in a little heap of exhaustion. That was our choice.

The choice, however, was based on an antique belief system that has been passed down from generation to generation and that is that we have to work hard to be successful. Notice the “hard’ part. Think about residual income – that is money working “hard’ for you – not you working hard, but rather you working smart. Now that’s the kind of work that I love to do.

Of course it doesn’t just happen. You have to make it happen, by the choices that you make and by the way that you set it up – by following the natural flow that your life takes instead of trying to swim upstream like a salmon! The action still has to take place in order for the result to be the one that you want.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we need to decide what we want to achieve and then we need to look around and see how best to achieve that result. And when I say “how best” I mean the most simple, the easiest, the most gratifying and the most fun – don’t forget the fun! Then of course we need to take the action, even if that means inaction – like sitting still whilst we ascertain in which direction “the flow” is going, or resting to ensure that we are fit and healthy to take on the challenge.

Yip, it’s all in the choices, and like most things in life the more you practice the better you get at it. So go on, make the choice! Make as many choices as you want, and then just for the hell of it, make some more. The more choices you make towards achieving your goals, your dreams and your aspirations, the more opportunities will arrive in your life to encourage you to make . . . still more choices.

About the author: Nikki is an Internal Auditor and Business Administration Specialist who can be contacted on 083 702 8849 or or

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